There are certain things you should never let another human being tell you, because let’s be honest– a lot of people say a lot of shit and don’t even follow their advice, so why should you?
You will, or may already have, come across people in this world that will try to dictate the person you are, the person you want to be, the person you see yourself as.
Here are 5 things I find most annoying from people that I hear, but don’t heed:
1. Your dreams are too big / you should think smaller.
Your dreams should be as big as you can imagine. Don’t let one persons limits be your limits. You are your own individual and you know you are in control of your destiny.
2. You’re asking for to much / you don’t deserve that.
Now this one is tricky, because there is a such thing as being unrealistic, so before you go tell Karen to kick rocks, take a step back and access your time line of things. If you are being realistic with what you are wanting then want it all!
3. This is not where you need to be / you should be doing ____ at this point in your life
If there is a big sign saying something like “No customers beyond this point” and you are not an employee of that particular place, then yeah, get out of there before they call security on you for looking for the restroom through the wrong door because you waited too long to pee.
Career wise, life wise, do not let other people mark your milestones. I graduated with my first degree and people told me I should be starting a graduate school or professional school the next semester, but I waited nearly 2 years before I went back and got my masters and the woman sitting next to me at graduation had 2 kids, was married, and waited ten years before going back to school to get her masters. Do things on your own time.
4. You are not cut out for this / “____ is not the field for you”
Don’t you hate playing a sport that you love to see other people play and you may not be doing the best at it (and obviously you know it!), but Captain Obvious decides to point that out to you. Yeah, those kind of people are people who deserve to step on Legos in the dark– you can do whatever you want and not always have to be the best at. If you are having fun and are doing what you deem to be your best then hey, do you bud.
5. (My favorite) “Maybe you should consider _____ instead.”
People who know nothing about you, but insist that you should be doing something other than what you want to do, they also deserve to step on Legos. Who are these people to tell you who you are and what you should be doing with your life. If you know what you want, figure out how to get there, work your ass off, and prove them wrong.
Go live your life doing what you love, and not because I told you to, but because you want to.